Valentines Day

February 10, 2015 by  
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Valentines day has alway proven to be a popular day for weddings. It has long come to be associated with the idea of love and romance.

Where did Valentines Day originate?

valentines dayHere are some thoughts from a recent article on todayifoundout.com:

So what about the more recent direct genesis of Valentine’s Day? This began with Geoffrey Chaucer, who is more known as the writer of The Canterbury Tales. However, he also wrote other things, such as a 700 line poem in 1382 called the “Parliament of Foules,” written in honor of the first anniversary of King Richard II of England and Anne of Bohemia’s engagement.  This poem is generally considered to include the first explicit Valentine’s Day / love connection ever written, with one of the lines reading (of course, translated to modern English),

“For this was Saint Valentine’s day, when every bird of every kind that men can imagine comes to this place to choose his mate.”

While some scholars believed Chaucer invented the Valentine’s Day / love connection that was previously not mentioned in any writings that have survived to this day, it may well have been that he simply helped popularized the idea.  Around the same time Chaucer was penning this poem, at least three other notable authors (Otton de Grandson, John Gower, and Pardo from Valencia) were also referencing St. Valentine’s Day and the mating of birds in their poems.

Whatever the case, the idea of Valentine’s Day being a day for lovers caught on, with an early Valentine being written by Margery Brewes in 1477 to John Paston, who she called “my right well-beloved Valentine.”

Over a century later, Shakespeare was writing about Valentine’s Day in, among other works, Hamlet with this line,

To-morrow is Saint Valentine’s day,
All in the morning betime,
And I a maid at your window,
To be your Valentine.

Fast-forward to around the 18th century and the idea of exchanging love note cards on Valentine’s Day started to become extremely popular in Britain, first hand-made then produced commercially (initially called “Mechanical Valentines”). This tradition of exchanging love notes on Valentine’s Day soon spread to America.

…via The Origin of Valentine’s Day

Whether your wedding day or not, it is a great day to tell your loved one how much you care.

Cold Feet? Don’t Just Walk Away.

January 28, 2015 by  
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Most of us are familiar with the 1999 movie, “Runaway Bride” starring Julia Roberts and Richard Gere. It is the story of a young lady given the label of being a runaway bride after leaving several men waiting at the altar due to “getting cold feet.”

Webster’s Dictionary defines cold feet as:

A feeling of worry or doubt that is strong enough to stop you from doing something that you planned to do.

via: Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 28 Jan. 2015. 

Getting cold feet is not an uncommon occurrence.

 

It is fair to say that many people, on their wedding day or in the weeks leading up to it, have occasional periods of doubt over whether they are making the right decision by getting married. We call this having cold feet. While the origin of the term is somewhat ambiguous, most people understand the term.

It is understandable that people get cold feet as they approach their wedding day. Getting married is a pretty momentous event, which has far-reaching implications. Quite often one or both of the engaged parties will suddenly be hit with the realization that they are about to commit to spending the rest of their life with one person. But there is no need to worry, you are likely just experiencing a moment of pre-wedding jitters. It happens to a large percentage of soon to be brides and grooms. Getting cold feet does not mean the marriage is doomed. Indeed, any sportsman will tell you that nervousness is not necessarily a sign of partial or anticipated regret. It is just a natural reaction to the change in circumstances, but it is not a sign to call things off.

One would be remiss though to not mention the fact that there may be a strong reason to take a serious look at your “cold feet.” If there are serious issues such as abuse, addictions, or other major problems, there is likely a good reason to step back and ask yourself if you are headed down the right path.

Getting cold feet is nothing more than a natural reaction to the stress and anticipation of the day. Ask yourself why you are feeling the way you are and if there is nothing significant that needs to be dealt wit, just take a deep breath and keep moving forward. Enjoy your day and love each other as you grow together.

The Ideal Setting

November 4, 2009 by  
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While it once was very widely accepted that a wedding was to be held in a church, temple, mosque, synagogue or any other religious building, the present day shows us an entirely different situation, where a wedding does not need to take place on consecrated ground – largely because it is the wedding itself and the people involved that are to be consecrated. With this widening of the boundaries, it is now possible to get married in a range of settings, and more and more people are choosing this option. While some are skeptical about this change, it is here to stay.

If you are not religious, you may very reasonably decide that you do not want to get married in a church, and just as reasonably argue that if you were to do so you would not be being fair to that church. Surely the vital element of a marriage is honesty, and if the marriage starts with even a symbolic dishonesty there must be some doubt over how it will go forward. A registry office is the most common alternative, although hotels, cruise ships and holiday resorts (many of which are now dedicated to the “wedding market”) are also popular.

The decision over where to marry should be taken equally by bride and groom, deciding on the basis that the choice should be mutual in order to start the marriage on the right foot. Consensus is something you will be looking for in the rest of your lives, so it is fitting that it should start at the beginning.